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Letter & Advice

Submitted on: November 10, 2008
Letter: Okay how i start my cousn i really liked her she now really changed into a bad girl i told her that she changed put she dont care even her sisters told her that she changed!! and her friends!!! everybody does !! could you tell me what i do i really need help

My Advice: What kinds of things is she doing to make her bad? If you've talked to her and so has everyone else then there's not much you can really do because people make their own choices in life. You should try talking to her again and let her know you care about the things that she's doing. Sometimes it takes more than one time to talk to a person to really make a difference. You could also get together with her sisters and other friends she has and try to all talk to her together. Talking sometimes helps and sometimes it doesn't, the person has to be willing to change on their own. I'm not sure how old she is but if she's young, then you may want to let her parents know to, especially if they're things she really shouldn't be doing.

Letter & Advice

Submitted on: October 12, 2008
Letter: My mom doesn't let me hang out with my friends at all, and I'm 13! I know she's being protective cause she loves me, but I really don't like being known as the girl who always stays at home.

My Advice: Well, obviously parents know whats best for you. What is it that your friends are doing or places they're going? Maybe things that they're doing your mom doesn't want you involved in. If she just plains out won't let you hang out with them for no reason at all, then I think you should talk to her about it. Let her know that you want to get out of the house sometimes and be with your friends instead of being cooped up. Or maybe even ask if they could come over and hang out and your house, then there would be no issue or worries because your mom would be there. Try talking to her and see what she says.

Letter & Advice

Submitted on: August 12, 2008
Letter: Ok so lately my dad and I haven't been the best of friends to say. I'm the youngest of the family and the only boy. I get a long very well with my aunts, unlces, cousins, sisters and such. But if my dad is around I can't be the person I am. He tends to um, shut me up I shall say? He doesn't really like the way I do stuff or the way I talk. If I tell him I'm not in the mood to joke around he'll stay mad at me and not talk to me and have a grudge against me. Sometimes I just want him out of my life. But I regret telling myself that. What should I say to my dad, or how should I try to work things out with him?

My Advice: I'd say the best thing to do is just when he's around don't talk much. Since he's your dad you don't want to be disrespectful, so just only talk if you have to when he's around. Some adults you just can't change what they do no matter what you say, so that's what I would do. If you feel comfortable, maybe talk to him in private and tell him how you feel about the situation because he may not realize it makes you feel like that.

Letter & Advice

Submitted on: July 20, 2008
Letter: My step-mom is just... no words can describe her! I can't get on myspace because she thought I was hiding it from her just because I clicked away as she walked into the room! She has some of the most stupidest rules! But I'm not even going to get started on that. Then today, she thought I was hiding a website from her again, it was YOURS she thought I was hiding! I don't know what to do or say to her. And I would tell my mom to come and get me but I want to stay here with my dad! What should I do? What could I say to my step-mom?

My Advice: Well, it seems as though she's just making assumptions so therefore you just have to explain things to her to clear certain things up. You should just sit down and talk to her about it. I mean, the only reason you're not allowed to go on certain sites is because she thinks you're hiding it right? So, just explain to her that it's a misunderstanding and that you're not trying to hide anything. Also, you could maybe try telling your dad about it and if he's understanding he could talk to her about it. So, the best thing to do here is just to talk and clear things up with her, seeing as though she's just assuming you're hiding.

Letter & Advice

Submitted on: June 3, 2008
Letter: My mom is the most over-reactive, loud, and annoying person you'll ever meet. Okay so today i wore this light brown shirt to school that was short at the right tip, it wasn't short it stopped right at my waist. So i was almost late for school today so i ran to the car and my mom was waiting so she was like "You have to go up and change, i'm not taking you to school with your underwear showing." I was like "DUDE! I'M GONNA BE FRICKIN LATE! it just comes up when i run." then she's like "No, go and change now!" I'm like "MAN!" i just sat there in the car and she was looking at me. I didn't move, i was not about to go late. Then she finally turned around and started driving. So after school my dad and my mom came to pick me up. When i entered the car, my mom was talking to my dad and demonstrating how my shirt was riding up that morning so i knew what she was telling him. Then my dad was like, "You're wearing a shirt that is showing your whole body. To school. You're just not serious." And i'm just shaking my head because you know what, i am so done with my family. I will stab someone in that house one day, just watch and see and i am NOT even kidding right now. Also i have the most annoying brother in the world. And get this, he's 17! He's not even my younger brother. He refuses to grow up and we fight (like physically) all the time and he's like "I'm stronger than you so don't even try to fight me." And i'm like "Can you hear yourself? You're frickin 17. GROW THE **** UP. (excuse my french lol.) There are just so many irritating things that i just can't stand anymore. HELP ME BEFORE I LOSE MY MIND.

My Advice: First of all, I have to say, don't try hurting anyone intentionally in your family, it'll land you in jail if you kill someone and you'll regret it forever. I know that sometimes family can be very annoying, it's very common, and you just have to accept that's how they are. In general, sometimes people don't realize how much they appreciate something until it's gone. Just appreciate the fact that you have parents, as some people don't, some people have to grow up without them, living in foster homes and things like that. I know how you feel and how angry you get with them but frankly, your parents are not going to be around forever, so appreciate them while you can. As for your brother, that is very common among siblings, most annoy each other. Maybe you should talk to your parents about the way he is acting and they will most likely rectify the situation. What you just explained to me sounds like your parents just really care about you and they just want what's best for you. You probably don't think that but some parents will let their children come out of the house any kind of way and they don't care at ALL. It just sounds like they want you to dress more appropriately and there's nothing wrong with that. In the end, you will appreciate the attention your parents gave you and realize they have nothing but good intentions.